Nutty Love

Do you do nutty things in the name of romance? Don’t be a fool for love.

Sure, it’s a wonderful feeling to be swept up in a wave of love and giddiness, but that early rush of affection can lead some of us to do some pretty odd things. Things like thinking we’re in love after one or two dates... making summer vacation plans with a person we just met... and rearranging our whole schedule in case the object of our affection should be available for a cappuccino. Now, instead of repeating those same old dating mistakes, why not vow to make some simple changes?

Fool-for-love move #1: Believing that falling head-over-heels in love at first sight is best.
How to fix it: Flash-bang-wow chemistry is fun, but true love evolves over time — not through fleeting glances or over a few cocktails during one enchanted evening.

Fool-for-love move #2: Having sex early on in a dating relationship.
How to fix it: “If you sleep with someone right away, it can be a problem later, because you’ve bypassed the phase of ‘Tell me more about yourself’ and ‘What do you like to do on Sundays?’”

Fool-for-love move #3: Falling for someone who’s taken.
How to fix it: “Spoken-for people can be very attractive, because they’re often confident enough to flirt and you may be craving affection,” “You may get the attention you desire in the moment, but you also get the heartache of someone who is not free to be fully attached to you.”

Fool-for-love move #4: Not letting people know you’re seriously looking.
How to fix it: When you’re tired of being single, appealing to your friends for help can seem like an act of desperation. “Blind dates can be scary and uncomfortable, but it’s a lot more uncomfortable to sit at home on a Friday night feeling depressed and lonely,”

Fool-for-love move #5: Ignoring red flags Have you ever found yourself thinking, “He’s great, even if he does drink waaaay too much,” or “She’s sexy; so what if she works for me?”
How to fix it: This is a total act of stupidity when you still go ahead even if red flags are shown.

I believe each and everyone of us whom got hurt badly once would fit in at least one of the love fool category above. Sometimes we know we are going to be a fool in one way or another ironically we are willing to see ourselves being one. No pain no gain.