Affair in details

A cheating spouse hurts quite a bit, and it can be difficult to move on. I realize you're feeling angry, sad, confused, and you really don't know what to do next. You might even be blaming yourself, but it's not your fault. It doesn't mean you weren't great, the person that cheated is at fault. They are confused, selfish, and to put pretty blunt, just a weak person. They have no real morals, only self-motivated ones. They aren't worth your time and they never deserved it. They'll be hurting more in the long run, if they continue living in a möbius strip of cheating. Infidelity in a marriage is extremely difficult, since this was suppose to be your partner in life.

Cheating has plagued love lives for generations. Sometimes, one never finds out about an affair a girlfriend has had. However, there are certain signs which might give one a clue as to whether (and exactly to what limit) the girlfriend is cheating.

The first sign of infidelity by a girlfriend in a relationship is her general disinterest in anything that the two enjoyed doing together previously. Sometimes this disinterest is blatant. For example, if a couple watches a movie together, and afterwards she can’t remember anything about the movie, then she might be deeply distracted by something. This disinterest then might graduate into a series of unexplained cancellations of plans.

Another sign of infidelity is an inexplicable display of guilt. One way in which guilt manifests itself is avoidance of the person who the guilty party feels is being hurt by her actions. The cheating girlfriend is therefore prone to generally avoiding the injured party – either by not taking calls or by not meeting for that ride or walk the couple used to like so much. Guilt can also cause pre-existing levels of intimacy to plummet.

Of course, there are countless other signs of a new lover: a sudden increase in her monthly expenses and car mileage; a splurge on cosmetics and clothes; a chronically non-reachable cell phone; an increase in overtime at her job without the accompanying increase in her paycheck, and so on. Also, if you notice a sudden increase in the number of her distant cousins, friends, ex-classmates, college friends, and so on, beware: she might be cheating.

Girlfriends having an affair have to be extremely well organized; their schedules are therefore punctiliously maintained. An affair is just an extension of a girl’s daily life: she has to find time for the accomplice between family, work, social life, and the injured party. Keeping a big secret is a very tiresome job, and only the coolest, most calculating people can actually keep such a secret. If your girlfriend is not very resourceful and she is keeping a secret, she will probably falter somewhere and maybe blurt it out to you herself.

I think it's important to try to examine the situation, just for a peace of mind. That way you don't keep the feelings bottled up, and refuse to trust again. Don't let one rotten apple(or sometimes a few) ruin it all. Not everyone is like that, sometimes it becomes more difficult finding those who aren't. You can turn a negative situation, learn from it, and make it a positive one. Infidelity comes from one thing, selfish motives. If you think back, you'll probably realize all along this person had plenty of them. They just never truly cared about your feelings, only their own. When someone feels that way, they're capable of doing anything to hurt you. A lot of times they just never learn, because they can't let go of their own pleasures and pains. They are too wrapped up in their own, so cheating can easily be a situation that presents itself.

People do make mistakes, I'm not trying to be judgmental about this. I can't say for certain that everyone who has cheated, is just a selfish person. However, it comes from selfish motives. You have to examine the situation, and what happen.